I've been reading more on the adoption lists.  There is one couple there who have hired a privte detective to search for their child's mother.  They are of the view that the trail will go cold if they leave it until their girls are old enough to try and find their birth parents themselves, so they will do it for them, now.   

Another lady put posters up around where the child was found with pictures of the child, letting the Mother know that the kid was OK and was going to the US.

I think if we adopt, I will do both of these things.  I want to get some input into trying to find the parents using a PI tho'.. I would not want the Mother to get into trouble for abandoning the infant as it is a crime in China,  she's already been through enough without punishment from the State.

And I've been reading the blogs again.  This time a different adoptee was angry about the poem that appears on the blog of future adoptive parents, about the birth mother's pain and the adoptive Mother's happiness.   I went and read it and I didn't find it so bad.  To me, the a-parents that are the most obnoxious are the ones that seem to act as if God dropped the baby out of the sky, special delivery, no return address.  At least this particular a-mom acknowledged the Natural Mother's existance and feelings.  That's a big step up from alot of the a-parents I read comments from. 

Maybe it's just that I'll never quite understand the rage some of the adoptee's feel towards a-parents.  I need to decide if I can handle this kind of rage from an adopted child of my own if we decide to go that way.

I've been looking around for Chinese language classes for both myself and kid's classes.  It seems that often interracial adoptee's want to go back to their home-country at some stage and if we adopt I would like our child to be able to do that will as little of a language barrier as possible.  On the other hand, I don't want to push a kid into a whole lot of stuff which may make them feel even more different than they already feel.  I'm considering also joining a Chinese Church so that Chinese lessons etc. don't feel so abnormal. 

And of course which Church has classes for kids to learn Chinese?  St Petes!